Communication
How heard you feel, and how safely you can raise a hard thing. Grounded in Gottman's Love Maps and the softened startup, and EFT accessibility.
The five-minute mirror
How are we, really?
A warm, honest check-in across the seven parts of a relationship that matter most. Twenty-eight questions, about eight minutes. Best done together, or send it to your partner and see both of your answers side by side.
Communication Conflict & Repair Trust & Safety Appreciation Intimacy Fun & Play Shared Goals
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Takes ~8 minutes. Pause anytime, your progress is saved.
Tip: use number keys 1 to 5 to answer faster. Esc to go back.
Communication
A check-in is waiting for you
Your partner just did their check-in
Now it is your turn. It takes about eight minutes, then you will see both of your Snapshots side by side.
Private and anonymous. Your answers are only ever encoded in the link you send back, never stored on our servers.
Your Snapshot is ready
Want a copy to keep?
It's written and waiting. Add your email and we'll open it up — and send you a copy you can share with your partner.
Your Relationship Snapshot
This is not a test you pass or fail. It is a mirror. Every couple has bright spots and tender places. Here are yours.
A gentle reflection for the everyday, not therapy or a diagnosis. If either of you is in a hard place, please reach out to a licensed professional.
Where the two of you are right now
Your seven dimensions
Open any dimension for its full reading and one small thing to try this week.
See it together
A Snapshot means the most side by side. Send your partner a private link, they do their own check-in, and you will see both, including the one place you each experience most differently.
Save your Snapshot
A quiet keepsake of where the two of you are right now.
Relationship Snapshot
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Want to go deeper?
This is the 5-minute mirror
The Twogle Check-In is the 50-minute deep-dive, where a certified relationship practitioner reads your Snapshot with you and hands you a plan you can actually use. Warm, structured, and just for the two of you.
Explore the Twogle Check-In →Turn one Snapshot into a habit
A check-in once is a mirror. A check-in often is a practice. Twogle gives both of you a private daily check-in, gentle prompts, and a place to watch your closeness grow over time.
One more lens
A check-in tells you how you are doing. A love language tells you how you each give and receive care. The two together are a surprisingly complete picture.
Take the Love Language Quiz →Your Compare Snapshot
A gentle reflection for the everyday, not therapy or a diagnosis. Different answers are normal, and useful. If either of you is in a hard place, please reach out to a licensed professional.
Every dimension, side by side
A safe place to talk it through
Found a gap worth talking through?
A Twogle Check-In is a safe place to do exactly that: a certified practitioner sits with the two of you, reads your Snapshot, and helps you turn a difference into a conversation, not a fight.
Explore the Twogle Check-In →Keep your Compare Snapshot
One private link that opens both of your check-ins, side by side.
Keep checking in, together
You just did the hard, honest thing once. Twogle helps you keep doing it: a private daily check-in for two, and a quiet way to watch your closeness grow.
Start your own
Want your own Snapshot from scratch? It takes about eight minutes.
What is a relationship check-in?
A relationship check-in is a short, structured set of questions that helps the two of you notice how your relationship is actually doing — across communication, conflict repair, trust, appreciation, intimacy, fun, and shared goals — before anything is on fire. This one scores those seven dimensions of relationship health, drawn from Gottman's Sound Relationship House and Emotionally Focused Therapy. It is built for the everyday, not the crisis. There is no pass or fail, no grade, and no scary number. Just a warm Snapshot of your bright spots and your tender places, and a way to compare it with your partner's. Each dimension below links to a full guide on what it is and how to tend it.
Conflict & Repair
How you find your way back to each other after a fight. Grounded in Gottman's work on repair attempts and what happens after the argument.
Trust & Emotional Safety
How safe it feels to be fully yourself here. Grounded in EFT's A.R.E. (accessible, responsive, engaged) and Gottman's model of trust.
Appreciation & Fondness
How seen and valued you feel in the ordinary days. Grounded in Gottman's fondness and admiration, and turning toward the small bids.
Intimacy & Closeness
How close you feel, in confidence and in body. Grounded in EFT's model of emotional and physical closeness and lasting bonds.
Fun & Play
How much lightness, play, and delight you still share. Grounded in Gottman's positive perspective, treating play as maintenance, not a luxury.
Shared Goals & Meaning
How aligned you feel on the life you are building. Grounded in Gottman's shared meaning and honoring each other's dreams.
How this check-in works
You answer 28 short statements, four for each of the seven dimensions, on a simple scale from strongly disagree to strongly agree. One statement in every group is worded in reverse, so honest answers matter more than fast ones. Your answers become a Snapshot: a warm band for each dimension (from "a bright spot" to "asking for care"), one overall word for where the two of you are right now, your brightest spot, and the one place quietly asking for care. No dimension is ever shown as a grade out of a hundred.
Do it together, or compare side by side
The Snapshot is useful on your own. It is far more useful shared. Finish your check-in, then send your partner a private link. They do their own, and you see both Snapshots side by side, including shared strengths you can lean on, shared growth where you already agree what to work on, and the single biggest divergence, the one dimension you each experience most differently. That gap is not a problem to fix. It is usually the most useful conversation the two of you can have, and this shows you exactly where to start.
Sample statements from the check-in
Here is the kind of thing you will be responding to, so you know what you are signing up for.
- Communication. "When something is bothering me, I can bring it up with my partner without it turning into a fight."
- Conflict and Repair. "After a disagreement, we find our way back to each other before too long."
- Trust and Safety. "I can be fully myself with my partner, even the messy parts."
- Appreciation. "My partner notices the small things I do and lets me know they appreciate them."
- Fun and Play. "We still laugh together and make each other smile."
The five-minute mirror, and the fifty-minute one
This free check-in is the five-minute mirror: quick, private, and yours to keep. If it surfaces something you want to sit with, the Twogle Check-In is the deeper version, a guided session where a certified relationship practitioner reads your Snapshot with you and helps you turn it into a plan. Twogle is not a licensed therapy service, and this tool is not a diagnosis. If you or your partner are in crisis, please contact a licensed professional or emergency services.
Frequently asked questions
What is a relationship check-in?
A relationship check-in is a short, structured moment to notice how the two of you are actually doing, across the parts of a relationship that matter most: communication, repair after conflict, trust, appreciation, intimacy, fun, and shared goals. Ours takes about eight minutes and turns your answers into a warm Snapshot, not a grade.
Is this a relationship health quiz?
Yes, though we think of it as a mirror rather than a test. You answer 28 questions about your relationship and get a Snapshot across seven research-based dimensions, grounded in Gottman’s Sound Relationship House and Emotionally Focused Therapy. There is nothing to pass or fail.
Can my partner and I compare answers?
Yes, and that is the best part. Do your check-in, then send your partner a private link. When they finish, you see both Snapshots side by side, including the one dimension you each experience most differently, which is usually the most useful conversation to have.
Do I need to sign up?
Free, no account — we ask for one email before showing your result. We use it to send you a copy of your Snapshot and a link you can share with your partner, and you can unsubscribe with one tap. The side-by-side compare link a partner sends you opens directly, no email needed.
Is this therapy?
No. This is a free reflection tool for the everyday, not a clinical assessment or a substitute for therapy. If you want to go deeper, the Twogle Check-In is a guided session with a certified relationship practitioner. If either of you is in crisis, please contact a licensed professional.
Other tools for couples
- The Comprehensive Love Language Quiz - 31 questions, ~7 minutes, find your primary love language across all five.
- The Conflict Style Quiz - 30 questions on how the two of you fight, and how you find your way back.
- The Argument Analyzer - paste a real argument and get a therapist-style debrief: what it was really about, and how to reopen it gently.
- Date Night Idea Generator - three hand-written ideas tonight, filtered by mood, budget, energy, and region.
- The Mental Load Calculator - see who actually carries what at home, from the visible chores to the invisible planning and remembering.
- Back to the full tools library.
From the Twogle blog
- Tracking Relationship Health Over TimeWhat is worth measuring between two people, and what a number can and cannot tell you.
- The Gottman 5:1 RatioWhy five warm moments for every hard one is what keeps a relationship healthy.
- Emotional Intimacy MappingA checklist for finding where closeness is thriving and where it has quietly thinned.
- An At-Home EFT Check-InA gentle, structured way to take the temperature of the relationship together.
- A Non-Clinical Relationship Tune-UpFor couples who are basically fine and want to stay that way, on purpose.